Today I turned 55. That’s 54 years 11 months and 24 days of being adopted. I spent 7 days with my mother before I was whisked away to Somerset. Somerset is a beautiful county; I live on the edge of an Area of Outstanding Natural Beauty and open my curtains to the glorious Quantock Hills […]
We should be asking whether lifelong legal severance and irrevocability are necessary to achieve a safe early environment.
Ultimately, the Standing Conference and the adoption agencies they represented wanted to maintain the myth of clean adoption, of an informed unmarried mother willingly surrendering their child in their best interests to an adoptive couple to whom they had been matched, as young as possible to develop formative attachments.
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June 2026 – We will use this page to add the latest media reports and our own comments and statements. Monday 13 July Last week (Thursday 7 July) the House of Lords held a debate on the government’s apology statement. You can watch it back on BBC iPlayer or read the Hansard transcript. On Saturday […]
“With the voices of adopted adults being heard across the world, and the messaging being conveyed, it is imperative that adoption as we know and understand it, evolves. Coram IAC will continue to drive understanding and best practice, as highlighted in the EurAdopt conference, Coram IAC hosted in April 2024 attended by delegates from all […]
Adoptees who endure horrendous cruelty in so-called ‘forever families’ are too often blamed for the disruption and breakdown. And when we are told it is due to our defective genes, we are vulnerable to believing and internalising these myths for life.
Children are not abusers. Adopters are trapped not by their acquired property, but by their own fear of failure, and fear of shattering their family fantasy beyond repair.
A couple of years ago I came across classes for adopters on nonviolent resistance (NVR). At first I wondered “what are they protesting?” I was horrified to find out that the term was being used in relation to parenting adopted children. The idea of nonviolent resistance was first used by Gandhi and was adopted by […]
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Founding members of the Adult Adoptee Movement met with Education Secretary Bridget Phillipson and members of her team on Thursday 4th December.