Ultimately, the Standing Conference and the adoption agencies they represented wanted to maintain the myth of clean adoption, of an informed unmarried mother willingly surrendering their child in their best interests to an adoptive couple to whom they had been matched, as young as possible to develop formative attachments.
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Adoptees who endure horrendous cruelty in so-called ‘forever families’ are too often blamed for the disruption and breakdown. And when we are told it is due to our defective genes, we are vulnerable to believing and internalising these myths for life.
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My Dad’s Voice
My mother was a teenager when I was born in the early 1970s. She was so young that my existence was illegal. Maybe I was a mistake. Maybe I was the product of rape. I don’t know. Either way, that sits heavy. I like to think that she was doing her best in impossible circumstances. […]