Ultimately, the Standing Conference and the adoption agencies they represented wanted to maintain the myth of clean adoption, of an informed unmarried mother willingly surrendering their child in their best interests to an adoptive couple to whom they had been matched, as young as possible to develop formative attachments.
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Thursday 18 June, 2026
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June 2026 – We will use this page to add the latest media reports and our own comments and statements. Monday 6 July Diana Defries and Professor Gordon Harold on ITV’s This Morning (YouTube, 6/7/2026) Friday 3 July Yesterday the Prime Minister gave a statement in Parliament to apologise on behalf of the State for […]
“With the voices of adopted adults being heard across the world, and the messaging being conveyed, it is imperative that adoption as we know and understand it, evolves. Coram IAC will continue to drive understanding and best practice, as highlighted in the EurAdopt conference, Coram IAC hosted in April 2024 attended by delegates from all […]
Adoptees who endure horrendous cruelty in so-called ‘forever families’ are too often blamed for the disruption and breakdown. And when we are told it is due to our defective genes, we are vulnerable to believing and internalising these myths for life.
Children are not abusers. Adopters are trapped not by their acquired property, but by their own fear of failure, and fear of shattering their family fantasy beyond repair.
A couple of years ago I came across classes for adopters on nonviolent resistance (NVR). At first I wondered “what are they protesting?” I was horrified to find out that the term was being used in relation to parenting adopted children. The idea of nonviolent resistance was first used by Gandhi and was adopted by […]
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Founding members of the Adult Adoptee Movement met with Education Secretary Bridget Phillipson and members of her team on Thursday 4th December.
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Adoption breakdown
We can only conclude that adoption is broken. And wonder why we are still using this outdated model.
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My Dad’s Voice
My mother was a teenager when I was born in the early 1970s. She was so young that my existence was illegal. Maybe I was a mistake. Maybe I was the product of rape. I don’t know. Either way, that sits heavy. I like to think that she was doing her best in impossible circumstances. […]