Today I turned 55. That’s 54 years 11 months and 24 days of being adopted. I spent 7 days with my mother before I was whisked away to Somerset. Somerset is a beautiful county; I live on the edge of an Area of Outstanding Natural Beauty and open my curtains to the glorious Quantock Hills […]
Category: Transracial adoption
transracial adoption
Adoptees who endure horrendous cruelty in so-called ‘forever families’ are too often blamed for the disruption and breakdown. And when we are told it is due to our defective genes, we are vulnerable to believing and internalising these myths for life.
I had my culture, heritage, history and family removed from my life by adoption and a phone call to an ineffectual, unfit for purpose therapy service isn’t going to fix that.
Is it a battle worth fighting? Today I start a round of EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing), a therapy recommended for treating the effects of complex trauma, under the NHS. It’s taken me four long years to get here, with frustration and disappointments along the way. With all the hurdles I faced, there were […]
Recently Colin Kaepernick has spoken about his experiences growing up as an adoptee of colour. The thing which distinguishes his and so many other adoptions is that his adopters are white. The sad fact is that there are a disproportionate number of children of colour in the system and available for adoption. Take a look […]
Genetic mirroring is being able to see yourself in the family that surrounds you because of your shared DNA, something adoptees are denied